Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Women have themselves to blame


Women have themselves to blame.
There is such a thing as shooting yourself in the foot and proceeding to wail. That is what young girls and adult women (read women) do these days. They epitomize the highest sense of envy, jealousy, betrayal and sometimes utter portrayal of all that Satan is about.
In the heated debate of student politics in our campus I witnessed a pitiful play of women back biting each other in secret and in the open. I did not just tear a page and publish this. I thought it through and concluded that if the observed trend continues, the next world war the next world war is going to be fought in the female frontier.
Long before the historic presidential debate happened, we had our own successful complete with observers, commissioners and everything. And it was free and fair. That notwithstanding, I got an ugly glimpse of girls shouting each other down and pulling microphones like little babies  fighting over lollipop. It happened that one was a moderator and the other was a chairpersonship candidate and time had elapsed for the latter. Unfairly, the lady candidate took to the podium when the male species had lied truthfully about their promising manifestos.
Now let’s call the lady leader Lucy for identity purpose. Lucy had simple, even mundane agenda. She said she will not promise and let us down. She said she will not install three taps for milk, porridge and beer. Neither will she antagonize us with the administration. The chauvinists had offered to give us everything we needed and more. Then suddenly, the bell rang and mic was grabbed from her feeble hands-by a Lady MC. Trembling and losing composure, her handbag fell and tears rolled down her double-dimpled cheeks. This act melted the hearts of the audience and the offending lady moderator was compelled to return the mic to Lucy.
Throughout   the entire debate, Lucy was cast as a weakling, prey, property, and project and completely unfit for the high office.
On the polling day the lines were long. Queues meandered like snake slithering to devour Lucy at the ballot booth. Sure enough she was swallowed whole and alive. She lost with a landslide.
I voted for her few female friends did. Majority of ladies shunned her as she was a leper. In the aftermath of the elections I heard good riddance hate speeches directed her way. She was saved and did not return the unkind words. She just kept quiet and moved on with her life.
Of course you will want to know who won. It was men and one woman. A lucky one was voted for our version of woman representative. You know our constitution reserves the post of Organizing Secretary for ladies. All the others (Chairman, secretary, treasurer and director of academics) were swept clean by the boys. And a good number of ladies voted for them betraying their own genome when it needed them most. Every elective post had a female aspirant and in some cases they were more than men.
This begs the question, why were these ladies trounced? Blame it on mediocrity, tribalism, patriarchy, bad luck but if the outcome of the election is anything to go by, the era of affirmative action is yet to down on South Sahara.
Could this be the reason why Ms. Martha Karua fought for presidency and lost, got an early retirement? The champion of the rule of law, family values , transparency and accountability and a tangible role model for the little girl who subjected to a life of  being there just to be seen and not to be heard. Like Lucy, Martha Karua was not rich to fly choppers as her competitors would or bribe the voters. Enough said, the rest reflect as you read.
The enduring moral of my little story is that both Lucy and Martha tried. The courage, the guts and gumption to throw their hats in the ring is far much better (at least to me) than lifting a stolen coveted belt at the end game. I salute you Lucy and Martha as for your women detractors, let them be ashamed that you tried and unlike them you are not a coward. Petty plotters of your downfall! In the meantime organize a fans’ thanksgiving party. Cheers!


















Monday, May 27, 2013

Campus Intrigues



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Campus Intrigues
By Musyoka Ngui
Housing: Beyond Comfortable Cribs.
This is a spectator observation. The kind that you get from a stranger. The frank, blunt and unapologetic comment that lays bare the obvious stuff that you see and think “so what?” You ignore or say it’s mundane.
As a sophomore, I asked myself what I could write home about if I was asked to sum up college housing in a paragraph. I guess a paragraph is too blocky to fill. May be a one-liner. Let me try. And don’t laugh.
In September 2011 I met conmen masquerading as landlords.  Since the resident hostels were full and crowded I was persuaded to register as a non-resident student far away. It was not exactly comfortable. It was a place to lay my head on and wish that gods will visit me with sound sleep to help me forget the stress of being without a decent hostel.
 I had to fork out some more cash for transport as my house was eight kilometers away from campus. It was an inconvenient baptism with fire. At times I could easily pass as Kizza Besigye walking to work in protest of M7 regime complete with peppered anger. The first semester of freshman is always an experimental one and mine was no different.
All my campus life I’d never known the trappings of resident dwelling. I rued the day JAB consigned my fate to a second choice rural college. We looked like pilgrims in Mecca. Everything was rush, adrenalin and hot blood. Ironically I came to love this university as I have seen it grow and successfully proved to me that in fact it is home away from home; serene surroundings and scenic sights of Mt. Kenya staring at young souls from over 5000 feet above the sea level and wondering what would become of their future now that their destiny lay in the hands of the new university.
There are randy roommates you have to contend with and accommodate them however small the crib is. You are bound to suffer exile. The type of blink-speed decision that a roommate calls upon the sensible side of a fellow comrade. It starts this way. “Look, man, I have my chic coming over and would like to use this house for the two of us. If you don’t mind you can go and sleep over at akina Joni then come over the weekend. Err.. I mean Monday morning”. Exiles normally happen on Fridays. The exile is given suspension notice any day between Monday and Thursday.
The not-so-lucky ones have to bear with the flames of jealousy as the pair cuddles and kisses right under their noses. Then the span of concentration hits zero mark and you say that the next day’s CAT can as well go to hell. After all it is just an exam and no guarantee is there for success. Then you pack your books neatly and pretend to go to the gents only to emerge the following day with a dark face. It is such a miserable life for the single and broke. Imagine a world where the type of bonding is pairing  and you are that lone ranger that has never had the privilege to escort a girl let alone exiling a fellow comrade after a culmination of days of expenditure, hollow sweet-nothing rhetoric, disappointment, frustration and the ultimate trophy: a lay.
Now I will let you in to my other housing home secret. Most men live in twos. That is a guy sleeping in the same house with another but in different bed. On the other hand, many girls sleep and live alone. Normally there is this ego that makes a lady larger than an elephant. As a result the bedsitter becomes too small for two adult girls to coexist minus catfights and bitchy name-calling.
The few girls living under the same roof in pairs suffer from Cold War. They are loudly silent or plotting how the will finish their roommates. They are cooks who can’t eat from the same pot. Every girl is an autonomous chef. Were utensils to speak they would tell the world’s untold stories. They would confess that it has been a noisy dinning session. Only plates and spoons chime. The jars and glasses only interact with the users by lips alone. The lips are zipped silent with a scandalous cloud of jealousy hanging above.
No girl would complement another for cooking a delicious meal. Instead they would complain that it has no salt, has excess fat or the chemical equation of soup and water is not balanced. They will work out the ratio between maize flour and water and conclude that the cook wanted to prepare ugali but changed mind midway to prepare uji after realizing that maji yamezidi unga.
The culinary would be left in the sink as it were, until the next meal. The decomposing leftovers will attract houseflies and cockroaches in equal measure. This will go on and on until someone starts visiting the loo more than they do the class. Be sure she is “driving” and her exhaust pipe is too impatient to wait any longer.
There is a sweet romance that everyone has sinned with green envy. It is the reckless cohabiting. The Pap! Generation hooks up in Facebook, meet at a coffee table and before the week end they are an item. Before you know what hit you he has lied and laid you and gotten another catch. Then you start saying: I hate men. Men are dogs. Men are all the same. Forgetting that where there is a dog there is a bitch. Better still, where there is a dog pet there is a master.
On the same breath of romance, most campus chics fear pregnancy more than STIs. They would rather have a flesh to flesh contact and pop a pill than sheath themselves. Caution is thrown to the wind and men close in on this once-in-a-lifetime chance.
Then there is another class of girls. They live alone but are “kept”. The maintenance guy comes over the weekend or when the match is away she travels to Nairobi. All expenses paid. Such girls populate the lists of retakes as they don’t know when the exam was done or they come to campus to write the main tests and random CATs. They can’t afford to sit down through a two hour lecture listening to a ranting professor or swallow their pride to ask for clarification when the assignment is hard and handout Greek.
These girls think they are on top of the food chain. They think because he pays for her rent he is charitable. Men’s math is simply complex. She will give him shag, wash and iron his clothes, cook for him but when the high sea approaches, Jymo will jump ship unhurt, leaving Eva to sink like the Titanic. Before she reaches the bottom of the sea of depression the damage is visible. The sorry self will cry, wet her pillow, blow her nose and mourn. A rough audit of the whole steamy affair will reveal massive investment of time, energy and money. The output section will show grim statistics; class position number looking like fees balance and a looming crisis of discontinuation. She will then go to the bathroom and take centuries to wash the guilt but it won’t dissolve. She goes and stands in front of the mirror and stares back at yours truly. Yours truly will have the cutest hairdo, the most provocative cleavage and a most expensive wear. But behind the forced smile will be a cursing silent swear that “Never again shall I be used again”. She will jot down overambitious resolutions to quit and open a new page. But once the dust settles she will return to the game. A finger that is used to lick honey cannot help but uncork the lid again.
A house is the frankest department of human beings. He can clad well before he leaves his house, he can smile outdoor but there is no pretence when it comes to taking stock of one’s house. He will pretend that he does not cook but indoors he bakes a mountain sweating in the brow with no shirt. She will pretend that she does not eat much at the hotel or mess but at a closed- door dinner she will clear plates and go for more helping.
A house is the ultimate crime scene where packs of condoms are stacked among layers beddings of an otherwise outwardly innocent person. Where you find dirty under wears buried under towels and the pillow the bank of the fool.
Never gamble with your stronghold. A house is your stronghold. Unless you are married don’t leave a man or a woman in your house as you go wherever. They will feign not concerned but the moment you leave the search begins. One discovery of an earring may lead a smart investigator to a wealth of solid evidence ranging from receipts, gifts, birthday cards, photos and even stumble upon matrimonial certificates. When s/he comes back you act the prosecutor intimidating a hapless defendant. It is called fighting a losing game. It is not worth the exchange. Just give up and accept that it happened and move on.
 The writer studies Bachelor of Arts Degree in Communication and Media.